We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. — Martin Luther King Jr
As human beings, we never stop learning, loving, expecting for something upon our way to reach our goals both short-term and long-term. We carry on our human effort and ego in those stuffs above.
Beyond one of the economics law, it’s also depicted that men never satisfy of what they have, as the tendency of chasing the higher satisfactory level.
Along our way towards the expectation, there are sequences of milestones to pass thru.
Starting from our defining expectation/goals, action/strategy towards achieving the goals, and the results (whether it’s achieved-SUCCESS or not-FAILURE).
I’m concerning on the not-achieving situation, that commonly lead us to the DISAPPOINTMENT(feeling of dissastifaction occurs as the result of the desired outcome not meet the expectation, even if it’s not fully expected). It probably may cause like it’s the end of the world.
Life is too beautiful, precious and too short for those disappointments. So we’d better get out of those disappointments, recover soon and run towards the other projects of life.
Some ways guide me dealing with those uneasiness are as follows :
1) Find someone to share, it’s a therapy!
Speak out your disappointment to your family, best friends.
Believe that it’s a natural yet cheap therapy as when you share, it’s like cutting off your burden.
And when they react by giving you advise and support, your burden will be even more decreased. That’s the mystery of human-side nature that human need to be-cared by others. (even the one who looks so independent and tends to be need nobody)
2) Calm down
As it’s uneasy, sometimes the mood affect our surrounding, in the manner of hurting others. This is not a good, so I think what we need is space and time for ourselves.
Things might not be so smooth, BUT, things might not seem so bad tomorrow!
Ask ourselves what we have done, what we can learn from the experience and how to do better in the future. From here, it’ll be pointed out as if this is really worth to be upset/angry about.
4) Think positive
To be failed doesn’t mean that we’re such a failure, it’s just the matter of time and the other attempts towards reaching the goal. So, never stop trying to reach it.
I was inspired to write this posting due to one of my recent failure.
Trully I feel that I’m a lucky girl surrounded by love and blessings, and what else should I ask for?
When I applied for the scholarship, it’s my first time (for Master Degree), things went pretty good, that I didn’t even believe that I became one of the scholars.
There’re good rivalries at that moment, and my position’s not quite good enough last time. Committed effort for sure, but I can say my positive fighting spirit manner and luck do involved in bringing me to Japan.
When I won the scholarship, I was thinking of my friends that wanted to go to Japan hundred times or maybe thousand times more than me, but they failed it.. it suddenly made me like I wanna hand over this chance to them… Though I didn’t do it, there were moments while my mind pinging back if I deserve winning this as compared to them.
From that moment, I know it’s a good chance for me and I should maximize this chance in proper way. When I knew there’s scholarship application, promptly I informed them.
I’m happy now, that 2 of them(the ones who succeeded thru final step) already got scholarship, their dream to continue a higher education is grabbed. 🙂 I’m so happy and proud for them.
I am used to dreaming big, exploring information to achieve the dream, doing effort and have backup plan when I fail it. But not for my recent failure (sorry can’t specify it clearly).
I was putting so much expectation and so confident on it, until I miss to define the backup plan. When I heard the result, it’d made me so upset, and cried for a while. I’ve got the signal in which appeared in my dream that I failed it, huhu..
People sometimes need chance while they’ve done their best..
Again, it reminds me of picking up only 3 persons out of almost 2,000 applicants to get the chance of obtaining scholarship.
So, as I’m the loser this time, I hope you the chosen one, can maximize the best of you for it. Good luck, wish you all the best!
And me? Well, this is not my time, but I’m going to imagine of reaching that goal.. I will try it again as if I have the other chance.