What impression do you have when ones are being polite to you?
They must be well-educated..
They are modest..
They are amusing..
They are rather dull..
There’s such kind of gap (in term of superiority)..
And so on..
Been living in Japan since a year back, I personally think that Japanese is sort of welcoming population and under the impression of overpoliteness. You’ll find how those people welcoming you in the store, thanking and bowing you when you pick up something to buy (that seems overwhelmed as if you buy the xtra expensive items). Or even when you question them for the direction, no matter of the language barrier, they most likely will accompany and make sure that you reach your destination. That’s why this impression turn out to be joke as if you’re goin’ to Osaka for eg or kind of out-of-town direction, perhaps they will go to Osaka with you by shinkansen.
But as for the foreigners what if we have to behave the same way like Japanese?
Recalling back to the first day of our briefing in the scholar welcome party, the officer taught us how to bow in such a manner way before we started our introductory speech. Most of us do it in a shame reluctant way and there’s one Philippine girl that seemed too shy, only nodding instead of bowing and it gave impolite impression to the audience as the result.
Another case comes to the the tremendous honorific expression in Japanese. Yup, It’s easy to figure out the closeness between the conversation partners. It’s countless mistake that I’d made to my supervisor, seniors that really blushed me.
While another one, there’s a stereotyping of Japanese that they’ll repeat their gratitude or apology to you, even if it’s been a week since the incident. This surely make the difference for the ordinary foreign people who think once is enough. The modern Japanese population comprehend and tolerate this, somehow others value the importance of obligation expressing those gratitudes and apologies, there’s something’s missing or sad, kinda lonely while not getting back those responses.
And now.. I realize how I’ve been affected by the Japanese’s culture, not much though. *grin*
It’s my friend telling me that how polite I’m like the Japanese, which made him allergic. ha ha.
We’re friends, but sometimes you behave too formal and polite, creating the block of stranger ambience.
Once in a while, I repeated the thanks for more than once, in the other chance of occasion after the meeting, but can’t help it.
Communicating with the overpolite conversation partners probably tend to make us feel sorry, so bad or allergic in some extents, so IMHO, it’s just the matter of personal preference, ones will find their own way to be polite. So don’t sweat these stuffs, be corteous and smile in within the sincerity can really brighten up your day and your surroundings.
Have a pleasant day frenz! 😉