What impression do you have when ones are being polite to you?
They must be well-educated..
They are modest..
They are amusing..
They are rather dull..
There’s such kind of gap (in term of superiority)..
And so on..
Been living in Japan since a year back, I personally think that Japanese is sort of welcoming population and under the impression of overpoliteness. You’ll find how those people welcoming you in the store, thanking and bowing you when you pick up something to buy (that seems overwhelmed as if you buy the xtra expensive items). Or even when you question them for the direction, no matter of the language barrier, they most likely will accompany and make sure that you reach your destination. That’s why this impression turn out to be joke as if you’re goin’ to Osaka for eg or kind of out-of-town direction, perhaps they will go to Osaka with you by shinkansen.
But as for the foreigners what if we have to behave the same way like Japanese?
Recalling back to the first day of our briefing in the scholar welcome party, the officer taught us how to bow in such a manner way before we started our introductory speech. Most of us do it in a shame reluctant way and there’s one Philippine girl that seemed too shy, only nodding instead of bowing and it gave impolite impression to the audience as the result.
Another case comes to the the tremendous honorific expression in Japanese. Yup, It’s easy to figure out the closeness between the conversation partners. It’s countless mistake that I’d made to my supervisor, seniors that really blushed me.
While another one, there’s a stereotyping of Japanese that they’ll repeat their gratitude or apology to you, even if it’s been a week since the incident. This surely make the difference for the ordinary foreign people who think once is enough. The modern Japanese population comprehend and tolerate this, somehow others value the importance of obligation expressing those gratitudes and apologies, there’s something’s missing or sad, kinda lonely while not getting back those responses.
And now.. I realize how I’ve been affected by the Japanese’s culture, not much though. *grin*
It’s my friend telling me that how polite I’m like the Japanese, which made him allergic. ha ha.
We’re friends, but sometimes you behave too formal and polite, creating the block of stranger ambience.
Once in a while, I repeated the thanks for more than once, in the other chance of occasion after the meeting, but can’t help it.
Communicating with the overpolite conversation partners probably tend to make us feel sorry, so bad or allergic in some extents, so IMHO, it’s just the matter of personal preference, ones will find their own way to be polite. So don’t sweat these stuffs, be corteous and smile in within the sincerity can really brighten up your day and your surroundings.
Have a pleasant day frenz! 😉
iya tuh Non,
pasti efeknya berubah jadi bagus ya kalo pindah ke Indonesia lagi, hehehhe…..musti buka kelas kepribadian dengan pengajar utama
Ms. Sakura Lady deh….hehehhehe
Oh iya say, thanks again ya udah main kerumah waktu itu, thanks again udah menghibur kita dgn biola-nya, thanks udah dikirimin foto… thanks banget.
PS. You are entitled to get a set of thanks from me again after a week. Kalau lupa ditagih ya… : )
haa..too polite juga bikin orang sungkan ya. emang kebudayaan orang beda2, tapi kalo ama temen akrab biasanya kita gak gitu sungkan, lebih cuek 🙂
hahaha
I think I know who that Philippines girl is haha…
jadi inget pas ke fudousan kemaren, padahal cuma survey doang, pas aku mo pulang, semua orang yg kerja di sana sampe berdiri dan membungkuk sambil bilang arigatou gozaimasu… sampe segitunya…
Mgkn bukan sekedar politeness ya, tapi juga kindness..
Emang beda ya culture nya jepang.. Di Indo jarang ada yg begitu kalau di kota-kota besar. 🙂
*Sorry uda lama ngga mampir… 🙂
Very different with western people yah, hehe.. Di sini smuanya to the point, eventhough they’re also helpful n polite, smuanya tanpa basa-basi, thanks/sorry bilang 1x sdh cukup, klo berlebihan mreka malah gak suka 😀
Jd inget, klo org bule duduk angkat kaki di depan tamu/client itu biasa, klo di Jepang? wuih ktnya bisa berabe itu yak? hihihi..
@sofie : wah, blom tentu.. pengalaman kaya kemaren pulang, gara2 terlalu aleman, kaya ngantri di toilet dgn rapi, bisa jadi ga dapet giliran. haha.. jadi harus barbarian dikid. 😀
Skolah Kepribadian, jadi inget juga pas ngikut John Robert Powers, ada kelas table manner, temenku bilang terlalu over dan ga fun juga kalau makan ama temen seformal itu. ha ha..
well, semuanya tergantung tempat dan kondisi ya. ha ha..
@Mba Dian : gubraks.. ngakak.. Ini tulisan juga terinspirasi gara2 kemaren ke tempat mba, abis itu mba and hubby masih say tengs mulu. jadi ga enag ati.. ha ha..
@Pucca : iya, makanya keliatan langsung closeness nya ya..
@Yan9n : oops.. jangan diaduin ya.. ha ha..
exactly, you got the point,rite? how those japanese ppl really bow you in the way that made you feel like you’re hero surviving their business.
Tapi skrg dah agak terbiasa ya, awal kayanya agak2 risih gimana gitu..
@felix : kindness in some extent. 🙂
Kadang jadi gelap mata ketika semua orang terlihat baik, di saat kita seharusnya juga mawas diri. ha ha..
@Pythia : yup, yup.. western people behave politeness in their way. Be firm, straight to the point yeah..? Iya, berlebihan jadi aneh, ga hanya orang bule, negara2 Asia kaya Indo iya juga bukan? 🙂
Wah di depan client angkat kaki? itu ga hanya di Jepang aja, seems like showing no respect. Terkecuali kalau ama client dah kaya temen, eniwei baideweh tetep ga bagus ah. 😀
jadi inget mpok minah yang di bajaj bajuri. pernah nonton bajaj bajuri gak wil?
si mpok minah juga over nih politeness nya. tiap kali ngomong pasti dimulai ama kata “maaf”. haha.
tapi bagus ya orang jepang pada polite gitu. jadi buat orang asing juga berasa di welcome ya…
pulang ke indo sini, bisa ngelamar ke JRP buat jadi pengajar tuh tante.. :))
hmm jadi kebayang c ceemot dengan kata khasnya “ya maaph” hihihihi
hmmm ternyata negara tetangga mirip yak >….< *kriting de*
hmm jadi kebayang c ceemot dengan kata khasnya “ya maaph” hihihihi
hmmm ternyata negara tetangga mirip yak…
kemaren 1 temen korea di sini bilang ke daku…”looks like u always bow to everyone…. ”
d’oh T.T bagemana inih….
btw kalo jepun ada tingkat kesopanan bahasa gitu ga ci wil? kl di sini ke prof/orang senior/senior di kampus, orang baru ketemu, anak kecil/orang yang lebih muda ama temen baek bueda kabeh T.T *kriting de*
gw kadang2 ma temen ndiri juga sungkan lho .. ntah napa , takutnya kalo gw terlalu langcang , nantinya dIa marah ^0^
aniwei ..
met wiken ya will
orang indo butuh banget tuh, sekolah kepribadian, terutama buat ibu2 yah enggak tau diri wakakaka…
g suka sekolah dijepang yang setiap gedung na pasti ada jam besar yang tinggi wkakaka ^^
Bagus dong pengaruh nya 😀 jadi lebih sopan sama orang2 😀
have a nice weekend! 🙂
@Anung : heleh heleh..
@Tata : iya, budaya Korea ama Jepun mirip2 siy ya.
@Tata lg : ada, level kesopanan nya. posisi sama, lebih rendah, lebih tinggi, atau level kesopanan di bhs bisnis.
@naki : haha, sami, kadangan ga enakan juga tp jadinya kaku ya? ;P met wiken jg say..
@pitshu : wadoh Pit, sekolah kepribadian ga cuman buat ibu2, bapak2, kawula muda juga.. he he..
@Angels : hehe, tergantung kadar kesopanan dan tempatnya ya. 😀
met wiken jg! ^^
haha, aku senyum2 baca posting ini dan dialog antara dirimu dan mbak Dian….
btw, beneran Wil, kamu berbakat untuk jadi ‘model of politeness’ …. alias ‘politeness leader’ in the world :))
hahahaha…
habis na disini yang ga tau diri kebanyakan Ibu2 sih…
@Mer : yah, begitulah.. huehuehue..
Model of politeness? haha, di-amin-in aja deh.
@Pitshu : bisa dikeroyok ibu2 ntar loh stlh dirimu men-generalisasi dan men-stereotype-kan ibu2. (duh bahasa gue.. ) LOL
bener banget…
gue pernah waktu bingung nyari tempat duduk (di arena konser) gue ampe dianterin ke tempat duduk gue. mungkin karena gue gaijin? soalnya yang lain aja harus berlama-lama ngantri.
kayanya asal kita minta, pasti bakal ditolong banget… ^^
jadi kangen Jepang…. ^^
Tia
aah… i miss japanese politeness.. kadang masih suka sewot loh kalo jalan di europe atau dimana gitu yg org2nya dingin2 aja, hehehe… terlalu terpengaruh yah, kekekeke.. 🙂
@Tia : yoi, orang2 jepang emang helpful dan ramah kok. ayo kapan kesini lagi? 🙂
@nadia : haha, yang terlalu2 itu ga bagus emang. termasuk yg terlalu sopan. ayo liburannya ke jepang aja mba Nadddd..